Hooray for Godparents # 3

So this is the bit where we really say HOORAY FOR GODPARENTS because here are...

Four Ways Godchildren can Bless their Godparents

1. Pray.
Encourage your child to pray for their godparents every now and then - a simple prayer of thanksgiving when they have been blessed by their godparents and simple prayers of intercession if their godparents are facing a difficult situation and it is appropriate to share this information.  Over time, as capacity to pray grows, encouraged your children to keep their godparents in their prayers. And at odd times engineer a way to help your children let their godparents know they are praying for them - what an encouragement that will be.

2. Remember Christmas and birthdays.
Encourage your child to draw a picture, make a card, send a card, write a letter, cook something, make something...for their godparents' birthdays and for Christmas.  We try, each year, to give our boys' godparents an up to date photo of the boys at Christmas time...although sometimes it happens well after Christmas if the run up to 25th December gets all too hard.

3. Share the news.
Keep the godparents in the loop.  If something amazing happens, let them know.  If possible, get the children to let them know.  Share the news of the first lost tooth, the broken arm, the standing ovation at the ballet concert, the excellent exam result, the removal of the training wheels.  And keep the godparents informed when there are difficulties too - anxiety about an exam, a reluctance to attend church, troubles at school - so that they can pray specifically.

4. Encourage gratitude.
Help the children grow in awareness of the blessings of godparents - their prayers, their gifts, their time, their concern.  And build up in the children an armoury of ways to say thank you - actually speaking those words ("thank you!"), a card or picture, a phone call or email or text or..., and prayers of thanksgiving.  It is good to cultivate gratitude in any case and HOORAYS FOR GODPARENTS - priceless.

To our boys' godparents - our heartfelt thanks. 

We are thankful to God for the way you love and care for them

and for the way you truly show how wonderful it is to be members of God's family.

Mx 

Hooray for Godparents # 2

Four Ways Godparents can Bless their Godchildren

1. Pray.
* Pray for your godchild's salvation as they travel through the stages of knowing Jesus as their friend, then Saviour and then Lord. 
* Pray for their love of God's Word, for their love of prayer and for their love of attending church.
* Pray that they will find a friend or two of their own age who is walking the same journey and pray that they will be  a great witness to their other friends and not be led astray.
* Pray for their day to day lives.
* Pray for their future - to press on in their relationship with God - that this might be their main purpose - and for a spouse who loves God.
* Pray for gratitude in the good times and grace and a godly perspective in the hard times.
* Pray for their parents - as they raise your godchild, for their relationship with God and for their marriage.

2. Celebrate Christmas, Easter and othe Significant Moments.
* Make the most of Christmas and Easter - this is your moment.  Our boys' godparents gave us an advent calendar for our first son's first Christmas and every year, just before December, we receive the goodies for the pockets - readings, questions, activities, a book to follow along and so.
* This year we started reciprocating (we're a bit slow around here) with fifteen empty eggs with readings leading up to Easter.  Next year I aim to be a bit more organised and less "thrown together" about this.
* If that is too complex, give books (colouring in books, activity books, story books and as the children get older, detailed books about Christmas and Easter.)  Find some way to promote Christmas and Easter every year.
* Send a card each year to mark the anniversary of their baptism/dedication.  If you are godparenting in an unofficial capacity, choose a random time of the year to send a card (at the same time each year) with the specific purpose of reminding them that you are praying for them and to encourage them along in their journey.
* Send cards, texts, emails...or make a phone call to mark other important occasions like starting school or going on a first overseas holiday or getting braces put their teeth or doing an important exam or...

3. Remember birthdays.
* Presents are good.  I try to give something with a Christian slant to our godchildren but I mix it up with games, toys, clothes and the like.  I have a friend who gives her goddaughter new (funky)  pyjamas every birthday.
* In your birthday card don't forget to mention that you pray for your godchild often and to spur them on as they get to know Jesus as their friend, Saviour and Lord.
* Give them a framed photo of yourself for their own room with something like "I pray for you" written on the frame.

4. Be a mentor. (This works best if you live in the same city!)
* In their early days, visit a lot.  Make sure they know you.
* Be a great role model.  As our boys' godparents promised, show them that being in God's family is great.
* Talk about Jesus with them. I have a friend who makes a point of always slipping something about God into conversations when her children's friends are around.  She wants to be known as "that lady who always talks about the Bible."
* As they get older, take your godchild out every now and then - for food, to a movie, to something they like to do.  Hang out and give them every opportunity to chat, ask questions and open up.
* Again, as they get older, make sure they have your phone number, mobile number, email address, that they are friends with you on Facebook - whatever is easy, quick and contemporary at the time to make yourself available.

Any other ideas?

List caveat: Don't attempt to do everything on this list by the end of the week.  In fact, don't attempt to do everything on this list.  Most especially, don't be overwhelmed. Choose one or two things that will work for you. 

Hooray for Godparents # 1

Are you a godparent?  Do your children have godparents?  Maybe you don't have children or godchildren but you might have a niece or nephew.  Or a special little friend at church.  Maybe you have a special bond with a certain friend's child but it was just never formalised. 

Godparents, official or otherwise, have a great opportunity to be a rich blessing in the lives of their godchildren.  Here are the promises our boys' godparents*  made to them both.

1. To pray for our boys.

2. To be a witness and example of what it is to be a part of the Christian family and how wonderful that is.

3. To encourage our boys to join that family.

4. To encouraged their parents to raise them to be part of that family.

That is a breathtaking set of promises and I might add, they are doing a wonderful job.  We are deeply thankful to God for them.

So coming up...four practical ways godparents can bless their godchildren and four ways godchildren can bless their godparents.

* Our boys share the same godparents.

A Difficult Transition

This is the post that won't go away.  I have half written it about four times and then deleted it, but it just keeps asking to be written - somebody out there must really need to read it - so here it is in full with the caveat that by throwing this out into cyberspace I don't wish to enter into the stay at home or go back to work debate.  This is a personal reflection.

Back in December 2002 I walked out of Room 6, locked the door, handed the key over to the principal, said goodbye to the teaching staff and headed off into the sunset (so to speak) into a new chapter.  For as far as the eye could see, I knew what I would be doing - and those who know me well know that I like to have a plan.   

In March of the following year we welcomed this little man into our family. 

And then two and half years later we welcomed this one too.

And so for the last seven years I have stayed at home and looked after house, home and our two small boys.  Having already dropped to one income, pre-children, when my husband left his engineering job to study, we now went down to student and parenting allowances.  For a short while we lost the student allowances!  But there was never any question about it.  We weathered all conditions of financial change through God's good grace and providence.  God blessed our socks off time after time.  Through God's good blessing we did what we had decided we'd do, long before any children were born.  I stayed home to look after the children.

The last seven years at home with the boys have been great, hard, a joy, tiring, full of wonder, stimulating, at times very small...a list familiar to most parents.

But it needs to be said that I spent much of 2009 thinking longingly of 2010, the year when our youngest would go to Kindergarten for two days a week.  Don't get me wrong, I love them both to bits.  But two lots of five hours a week, childfree, to teach Scripture without having to organise childminding, to clean the house and have it stay clean for an hour or two, to get a haircut or go to the dentist, to have extended times of prayer, to read a thousand books, to catch up with friends and finish the conversation, to visit some of the older folk from church who are finding it harder to get there now, maybe even do some exercise...  I was tantalised by the options for most of last year.

So, I have had a term with ten hours at my own discretion.  And how has it been?  Firstly I discovered that I had highly unrealistic expectations about what one can get through in that time!  Housework in particular has barely rated a mention in the last ten weeks, apart from the absolute essentials.  In fact, I've done worse in that area this year despite the extra time because I have been more intentional about spending time with the boys when they are home.  Housework will need to rise to the top of the list next term - at least for a day - for the sake of on-going good health.

That said, having the time available has been good.  Really good. 

And yet, for most of first term my heart was troubled.  I have realised that I am in transition from what was last year - at home with child/ren in my full care - to what will be next year - both children in school full time. Next year, or sometime therefter, I am faced with a decision.  Whether or not to return to paid work in some capacity.  It has really troubled me.  And the fact that it has troubled me has taken me by surprise.

Not going to work during the last seven years was a no-brainer for me.  And we have managed to make ends meet, thanks be to God.  But here is the thing.  We now get to decide whether we continue on like this or not.  We are faced with a choice.

I could quite easily and happily fill my time volunteering at church and the school - and doing a little bit of housework!  I could quite easily get some part time work nearby, confined to school hours that doesn't disturb the flow of the household.  One choice fills a need in my community.  The other choice fills a need in our bank account.

So the next question is, does the bank account really need filling?  Aren't we managing?  Well, yes we are.  But we live simply and we now face the decision whether or not to make this our long term operating style.  To live counter-culturally and not have it all.  Or else to work and have a bit more flex. 

I have excellent role models in both camps - women who have gone back to paid work and women who have deliberately chosen otherwise - women in both camps who I respect enormously.  

I write this post because I know I am not alone.  There are others out there in blogosphere anticipating this same transition.  Nicole is writing a series on this very topic and for this post, Simone (who blogs here) left a particularly astute and helpful comment. 

At the height of my agitation last the term, Jean shared her manifesto with us.  Amidst her words was this sentence written as though in neon lights,

The majority of married women with children return to work soon after their children go to school—sometimes for financial reasons but also often because of the pressure of feminism, careerism or materialism.

Great, searing words that invite thorough investigation of one's motives.

I'm not fully thought through as yet, although for those sweet enough to be worried for me, it's not overwhelming me anymore.  So please do not worry.  I am over the angst and now happy to let it be for a time.  I don't actually need to make a decision any time soon.  And a decision will come.  Let it also be said that I also know that any decision I make at some stage in the future will not be irrevocable.  But this post has been nagging away at me to be written because maybe it needs to be said (ie. this was a long of saying) that this transition, from having small children at home to having those small children at school, is hard.  Because there is a big question that needs answering...

As a Christian, how do I best use the time now given to me to serve God, my family and my community, bearing in mind my own capacities and circumstances?  It's not a question anyone else can answer for me.  Nor is it one I can answer for anyone else.  But that is the big question.

And as a sideline, it has given me some empathy for those in another of life's transitions - those anticipating retirement.  I have heard that this transition is really tough on some.  I never used to be able to understand it.  But now I do.  I have been travelling from a period of really intense activity to one that brings with it discretionary time.  There is a parallel in retirement. 

There is a time for everything,

and a season for every activity under heaven.

Ecclesiastes 3:1

New Life

A few years ago, at about this time of the year, I received a letter from a dear friend who was residing in London at the time.  At one point she described the scene from her kitchen window of a window box and beyond it, a garden, that was coming to life now that Spring had arrived.  

As I reflected upon her letter I thought how wonderful it must be to live in the northern hemisphere at Easter time with such visible signs of new life all around.  It must be such a joy to celebrate new life in the risen Christ with gardens coming to life after a long, cold winter.  Noel Piper certainly thought so this year.  It is such a beautiful parallel to be found in nature. 

In my neck of the woods Easter comes in Autumn, after a long, hot summer.  Most gardens blessed to have me as their caretaker are fairly dry and crisp by this time of the year.  There are no parallels of new life to be found anywhere nearby!

This year was going to be no exception.  The garden bed that I famously started planting out last year was in a terrible state at the end of summer.  By mid-February I decided to prune back the daisies and the geraniums hard.  I figured I would reduce the stress on the plants, trying so hard to keep their few remaining leaves alive in all this heat and lack of rain.  So I cut them all back until they resembled small, brown stick plants.  I didn't know whether they would survive the pruning, but then they weren't going to survive the summer anyway.  I should have taken a photo of this appalling sight.  But it was just too miserable!

However things have turned out differently this Easter following a big storm that dumped 50 mm of rain in one afternoon nearly two weeks ago.  Since then we have had warm, sunny days - not unlike spring - and the spectre of brown that surrounded our house has turned to green.  Including the poor little stick plants in the garden bed.  They have all started sprouting and are giving the distinct impression that they are going to be in good form by the time spring really does arrive.  This was a real Easter treat for me.

So I have a little shopping list on the whiteboard on our fridge.

2 x daisies

2 x rosemary bushes - important for a roast lamb chef

4 x lavender bushes

Eight tough plants that will finish the planting out and will hopefully survive future summers of heat, little water and inevitable neglect.  I hope to go shopping soon.  I think there's almost enough in the piggy bank.

It was a joy to experience new life in the garden this Easter.  And I am glad to have new life breathed into the great gardening project as well.  More photos to follow, I am sure. 

Easter Sunday

because we are all

betrayers, taking

silver and eating

body and blood and asking

(guilty) is it I and hearing

him say yes

it would be simple for us all

to rush out

and hang ourselves

but if we find grace

to cry and wait

after the voice of morning

has crowed in our ears

clearly enough

to break our hearts

he will be there

to ask us each again

do you love me

by Luci Shaw

from The Sighting

Good Friday

The love of Christ!  Such a precious theme!  Of it can we ever weary? Never! Its greatness can we ever know? Never! Its plenitude can we fully contain? Never! Its depths cannot be fathomed, its dimensions cannot be measured! It passes knowledge! All that Jesus did for His people was but the unfolding and expression of His love.

Traveling to Bethlehem—I see love incarnate! Tracking His steps as He went about doing good—I see love laboring! Visiting the house of Bethany—I see love sympathizing! Standing by the grave of Lazarus—I see love weeping! Entering the gloomy precincts of Gethsemane—I see love sorrowing! Passing on to Calvary—I see love suffering, and bleeding, and expiring! The whole scene of His life is but an unfolding of the deep, and awesome, and precious mystery of redeeming love!

Octavius Winslow (1808 - 1878)

The Year of the Roast - 30th March 2010

I have a friend who lives in a suburb where the blocks aren't square and the roads don't run east to west, north to south.  Her suburb features windy streets, cul-de-sacs and loop roads squiggling all over the place.  For one as directionally challenged as myself, it is next to impossible to navigate.  I go to her house quite frequently.  During the first year after she moved I had to check the street directory EVERY time before I left home and most times I would still end up getting lost.  One day she gave a me a piece of vital information. 

"When you reach the reserve, turn right.  And then it is the first left after that."

It's easy.  I go there now and I can't actually imagine HOW I managed to get lost.  It's almost embarrassing.  One piece of vital information was all I needed.

What has that got to do with The Year of the Roast?  Well, tonight I have experienced a similar phenomenon.  I cooked a roast.  And it was a snap.  And I can't actually imagine why I have thought this is a difficult thing to do for all these years!  It just took one piece of vital information...Sharon's advice to par-boil the vegies.

I decided to take the plunge when I was planning out the meals for the week last Saturday.  I looked in my diary to see what lay ahead for the week - when the evening meetings were on, when there were visitors, needing to factor in the evening when we are late from swimming and so on - to find that today is Passover.  So what better day than to cook a lamb roast.

4:30pm

1.5kg of lamb spiked with rosemary and rubbed with olive oil, sea salt and garlic, ready for the oven. 

One and a half hours at 160 to 180 degrees C.

5:00pm

Potatoes, pumpkin and carrots ready for par-boiling.

5:20pm

Par-boiled vegies in the baking tray with the meat.  Into the oven.

Husband on standby to look after the boys at 6pm when peas need to be cooked, gravy made and meat carved.

6:00pm

Knife stuck into side of meat.  Juices NOT running clear.  Don't panic.  Stay calm.

And I did.  It's OK.  It is my husband's day off.  There are no meetings for anyone to attend tonight.  The boys are big enough that if tea is a bit late it isn't going to ruin everyone's evening. 

Diagnosis of problem...temperature may be a little low but probably the oven rack is too low.  Move the oven rack up and boost the temperature a bit.

6:30pm

Juices still not running clear.  And we like our lamb cooked.
Still not panicking.  Clear-headed enough to make the decision to finish it off in the microwave for ten minutes.

6:40pm

Meat cooked and resting.  Vegies cooked and keeping warm.  Peas in the microwave.  Gravy on the go.

6:50pm

Carving the meat.  Boys beginning to show signs that they need to be fed and put to bed.

6:55pm

Dinner served.  Only an hour late...but not feeling stressed.

Dinner in Review

First up, everyone enjoyed dinner! 

In some ways it felt like a lot of time in the kitchen but that is probably because I am used to the "preparation to table in 30 minutes or less" routine.  And when I think about it, while it took two and a half hours to cook, I managed to supervise homework, prepare some fiddly props for tomorrow's Scripture lesson, write the text for this post as it was happening, do bath time for the boys and do various other jobs all while it was in the oven.  So in reality, it's not all that labour intensive.  Mind you, washing up is a bit labour intensive.

I think the slower than expected cooking time will correct itself with better placement in the oven.

Tonight's feast fed our family of four with leftover meat and only a couple of extra-to-requirement vegies.  The big aim is to be able to put on a roast for lunch after church.  (I figure I can dash home straight after church, turn on the oven, go back to church to chat and things will be all ready at a respectable time with par-boiled vegies and the baking tray higher in the oven.)  But there was no more room in the baking tray.  It's not the biggest of baking trays.  I think I could fit a bigger tray in the oven so I will need to go and find one of those.  And if I do a rolled roast rather than a leg of lamb, that would leave more room for vegies.  (And it would be easier to carve!!)

We had gravy made with gravy powder, although I did mix some pan juices into it.  I think in the absence of a sous chef, this is probably as good as it will get although the option is always there, if everything ran exraordinarily to plan, for real gravy made from scratch.  And if it isn't running to plan, the Gravox will be there!

Roast dinners seem within reach.  And it turned out to be a meal that everyone in this house enjoyed - a very rare occurrence.  So the next thing to do is try the rolled roast and then to get some sympathetic people over from church one Sunday for an attempt at the Sunday lunch thing.

I'll keep you posted. 

Smelling the roses: Check!

Things I've done in the last two weeks while I haven't been blogging...

• lots of Bible reading
• lots of praying
• talking with a few people about the issues filling my head at the moment
• watching WAY TOO MANY episodes of West Wing during the evenings (I think I have devoured four disks worth in the last fortnight, but wow, it was good!  Series four was sensational!!)
• got the amount of time I spend in front of this computer back under control
• cleared my head
• came to some conclusions and made some good decisions

And now, even though I said I'd be away for six weeks...and it has only been two...I'm back - in part inspired by this post by Simone.  I've missed being a part of our little community.  And hey - there are things to be said.  For a start, there was a very big storm here last night.  More on that as soon as I have written it.  For now, it is bath and dinner time.

Off to smell some roses...

I haven't written a post in a week.  And truth be told, the posts of the previous three weeks were, by and large, hard won. 

I can't quite put my finger on what the problem is.  I don't feel like I have blogger burn out.  I have made a point not to put myself under any pressure to post at any time and I usually rest from blogging during the school holidays - more for the sake of our children...but there is a benefit for me too.  I would certainly be loath to shut this blog down - I have made some lovely friends and my relationship with God has deepened amazingly this last year or so as I've put my mind to writing about the things of Him in (I hope) a faithful way.  I love writing - it is a great form of recreation for me.  It's not like I don't have anything left to say - I have a nice, long list of ideas in my notebook to explore.  And I have been enjoying using some of my own photos this year - not that this rose photo is an original!

But somehow I have just lost my voice at the moment.  Certainly reading Calvin and Winslow have deepened my thinking and I while I find myself in the process of realigning my thoughts as a result of being on this steep learning curve, I wonder whether I'm just sounding plastic or worse still, self righteous just at the moment.  And I guess too I find my thoughts in other places just now - this year our youngest started Kindy and I have found the transition between what was last year and what will be next year surprisingly and unexpectedly...well, it has occupied a great deal of my brain space, which I didn't anticipate.

I have a couple of beautiful quotes that are scheduled to pop up over Easter and I may do a Calvin Club update but otherwise I'm pulling up stumps until after the April school holidays and then I will see how things are going.  I'm going to keep reading a few blogs - although I am going to narrow the field down there too. 

I have no idea how many people read The Key to the Door - it doesn't boast a huge readership but amongst its ranks are some very special women and so to those dear friends I wanted to say, I am off to smell a few roses until mid-April.  And maybe to cook a roast as well!

Jesus - the Name above all Names

I have just come home from teaching two Scripture lessons at our local primary school.  This was my second class for the year.  Last week we looked at names...finding out what our own names mean (Meredith apparently means "guardian of the sea"), wondering why our parents chose those names for us (if we were named after someone or if there was some sort of history behind the choice) and so on. 

Today, after a lightining quick tour of the Bible (two sections, 66 books, chapters and verses and summarising the Old Testament as the history of the people of Israel as they waited for Jesus to come to earth and the New Testament as being all about when Jesus came - his birth, life, death, resurrection and ascension - and what various people as a result of Jesus' time on earth) we looked at just a few of the names Jesus is given in the Old and New Testaments.  Via a fast, fierce, fun and highly competitve game we looked at seven short passages from Isaiah, Matthew and Luke and ended up with this list...

Jesus 

Messiah (or Annointed One)

the Son of God

Emmanuel (God with us)

the holy Son of God

Saviour

Christ the Lord

King of the Jews

Son of the Living God

Wonderful Counsellor

Prince of Peace

Having explained some of the more technical terms and allowing the children to complete the obligatory word sleuth in their workbooks, I read the list out again very slowly and quietly and then asked the question, "Even before we learn anything about Jesus from the Bible, before reading any stories at all, what do we learn about what Jesus is like just by knowing these names?  Was he just an ordinary man?"

They got it.  And I got it just a little more deeply too.  What a fantastic lead in to Easter.

Morning Needs

I thought I might start sharing, from time to time, the occasional prayer from The Valley of Vision which is a collection of Puritan prayers and devotions edited by Arthur Bennett.

My first choice, "Morning Needs" (p. 218), steeped in direct and indirect references to Scripture, is an amazing prayer for starting the day.  I have enjoyed using this prayer some mornings, especially when I am at a loss to know what to pray in my own words.  It captures the needs of my day so wonderfully.

O God, the Author of all good,

I come to thee for the grace another day

    will require for its duties and events.

  I step out into a wicked world,

  I carry about with me an evil heart,

  I know that without thee I can do nothing,

    that everything with which I shall be concerned,

    however harmless in itself,

    may prove an occasion of sin or folly,

    unless I am kept by thy power.

Hold thou me up and I shall be safe.

Preserve my understanding from subtilty of error,

  my affections from love of idols,

  my character from stain of vice,

  my profession from every form of evil.

May I engage in nothing in which I cannot implore thy blessing,

  and in which I cannot invite thy inspection.

Prosper me in all lawful undertakings,

  or prepare me for disappointments;

Give me neither poverty nor riches;

Feed me with food convenient for me,

  lest I be full and deny thee

  and say, Who is the Lord?

  or be poor, and steal, and take thy name in vain.

May every creature be made good to me

  by prayer and thy will;

Teach me how to use the world, and not abuse it,

  to improve my talents,

  to redeem my time,

  to walk in wisdom toward those without,

    and in kindness to those within,

  to do good to all men,

    and especially to my fellow Christians,

And to thee be the glory.

Amen

[Photo of a Galapagos tortoise at our local zoo, having his morning shower. 
We were there at just the right time!  With a camera!!]

The Year of the Roast - the Baseline

It's been far too hot all year to be thinking about roast dinners around here.  But now that we find ourselves in Autumn (not that the change in season is apparent as yet), it will soon be time to start thinking about roasts.  Particularly as I declared 2010 to be the Year of the Roast.  So this is what I can do at the moment...

I can roast meat in the oven - I've done them in oven bags and in baking trays.

I can roast vegetables in the oven - and have done this often, especially as a first step for delicious soups.

I can roast meat in the microwave.  Yes!  True!  Lamb is especially good done this way.  It looks like nothing is happening and then all of a sudden it browns up just at the end and it's delicious.  It does create quite a lot of cleaning up though.

I can do the meat in the microwave and then do these frozen vegies in the oven and have it all ready at the same time.

They aren't THE nicest vegies in the world but the benefit is that they have very specific instructions on the back of the pack in terms of timing.  And microwaving the meat has the meat cooked at a predictable time too.

So really, all I can't do is roast meat and vegetables in the oven at the same time - in order to have everything cooked and ready at the same time.  I have tried to do both together once or twice and ended up with half cooked vegies.  And felt stressed. 

The aim is to learn to cook the meat and the vegetables, in the oven, rendering them all cooked at the same time and find myself at the table with a fully cooked meal, including gravy, without feeling like I am about to have a stroke!

I only have one oven rack so it will all have to be done in the one baking tray.

So once the temperature has dropped below 30 degrees (celsius) on a consistent basis, I shall be reading up my Jamie Oliver books.  He can pretty much take the credit for the rest of my culinary skills so he may as well get me up to speed in this area too.  And I shall also heed the good advice from dear person who commented here - although maybe not so far as the goose fat!  Any other good tips warmly accepted.

I'll keep you posted.